This chapter is devoted to that encouraging repetition.…The Positives What follows is a list of seven specific benefits that are repeatedly experienced in the secular/religious marriage.“We both found that each other was not the ‘scary atheist’ and ‘crazy Christian’ that we were led to believe,” says Julie, a Lutheran married to an atheist.
“We both have the same views and morals and outlook on how life should be, how people should treat other people, animals, and the earth. The only difference is I think there is a God and he does not.”Religious and nonreligious partners alike say that having a spouse on the other side of the aisle has made them smarter, more effective, and more empathetic in their engagement and activism and better examples of their own worldview.“It may seem strange, but I think I’m a better Muslim than I was before I met my [agnostic] wife,” says Fadi.
In the exclusive excerpt below, Mc Gowan talks about the benefits of those mixed-faith relationships:…Despite the general pall that so many commentators cast over religiously mixed marriages of every kind, the picture of the secular/religious marriage is positive and encouraging. After all, we’ve just spent a great deal of time examining the many issues and tensions that can arise when one partner is religious and the other is not.
"I was wondering, when it is appropriate to bring up religious beliefs once you start dating someone?For me, my religion is important and I want someone who can share that with me.If the girl you like is a devout Christian, her faith deserves consideration and respect, but it doesn't have to become a point of contention.Making room for her faith is just another way of accommodating her feelings and showing your devotion to the relationship.However, I think the answer is equivalent to any value that's particularly important to you when it comes to the life you want to share with your future significant other, be it political or environmental or dietary or Beatles v. (JK about that last one, I hope.)And that is that I think it depends on just how much it matters to you when it comes to someone you're dating.
For instance, if there is you'd consider dating someone, even casually, who doesn't closely share your religious beliefs, it's probably good to be up front about that from the get-go.
I am a better representative of my own faith now than before I met her.”Many nonbelievers feel the same.
“Having a wife that is a liberal Christian actually helps me in my activism,” says Steven.
Ivanka Trump and her husband Jared Kushner may be hailed as a power couple today, but the pair broke up in 2008 because of their religious differences.
In a move Jane Austen would have appreciated, Wendi Deng Murdoch, the former wife of media mogul Rupert Murdoch, brought the two back together on a weekend yacht trip, the New Yorker reported.
But if they are religious, they are told that they shouldn’t want the sex part; which creates a varied spectrum of life decisions depending on how devout a particular female is.